Why does my doodle or poo follow me everywhere?

Doodles and poos are popular companion dogs - and for good reason. They’re often intelligent, affectionate and social. But many owners also find that their doodle or poo has a strong need to stay physically close. For some, this becomes a daily challenge when the dog follows them from room to room and struggles to settle when they leave.

Here’s why many doodles and poos stick to their owners like glue, what this means for everyday life, and how you can teach your dog to feel safe and relaxed in their own company.

Why does my doodle or poo always want to be close to me?

Most doodles and poos are poodles crossed with companion breeds or other dog types that naturally crave close physical contact with their owners. As a result, they often form strong bonds and want to be involved in everything. There are several reasons for this:

• Social heritage: The poodle is a companion breed, and many poodle crosses are bred with other companion dogs, meaning they inherit a strong attachment to people.
• Intelligence and sensitivity: They’re often highly aware of their surroundings and tuned in to you. This means they quickly pick up on changes in mood or movement.
• Comfort in closeness: Many doodles and poos feel safest right next to you. They may become unsettled or insecure when you move away, so they seek proximity (and reassurance) as much as possible.

For many dogs, both puppies and adults, this “Velcro” behaviour is completely normal in new surroundings and during adjustment periods. That’s natural and okay. The problem arises if it develops into a long-term pattern that affects both your dog’s wellbeing and your own.

When closeness becomes a challenge

While it can be lovely that your dog follows you around the house, it can also lead to difficulties:

• Your dog struggles to relax, even when you’re together at home.
• Your dog becomes anxious or restless when you leave - even just to another room.
• The risk of separation anxiety increases if your dog never learns to be alone.

It’s important to remember that this behaviour isn’t bad manners. It’s often a sign of insecurity and a signal that your dog needs support to become more independent and confident.

Step by step: How to teach your doodle or poo to stay

A very effective tool is teaching your dog a clear signal that means: “Stay there, I’ll be back in a moment.” This helps your dog understand that they don’t need to follow you everywhere.

1. Choose a cue: For example, say “Stay here” while using a hand signal. The key is consistency and a calm tone of voice.
2. Start small: Stand up, give the cue, and take one or just a few steps away, depending on what your dog can cope with. Return quickly and praise them if they stayed put. If they get up, ignore it and make it easier next time (for example, just stand up without walking away).
3. Practise daily: Repeat the exercise often. Gradually increase both distance and time away.
4. Be calm and predictable: Use the cue consistently - whether you’re going to the loo or making a coffee. This makes it familiar and reassuring.
5. Reward calm behaviour: If your dog stays where they are, drop a treat on the floor beside them so they associate that spot with something positive. Gentle praise or a quiet “good dog” also works. If they get up, simply try again - no telling off.
6. Build it into everyday life: Make it part of your daily routines, so your dog learns that distance from you isn’t dangerous and that you always come back.

What about training your dog to stay home alone?

If your dog struggles to be left alone, it’s often because they haven’t learned that it’s safe to be without you. For many doodles and poos, strong attachment and “Velcro” behaviour go hand in hand with difficulty being left.

Home-alone training should always be gradual and structured. Start by practicing very short absences - perhaps just stepping outside the front door for a few seconds - and return before your dog becomes anxious. The goal is for your dog to experience your absence without ever tipping into panic.

Build up slowly. Increase the time in small increments, and only move forward when your dog is calm and relaxed. If they bark, whine or become distressed, the step was too big. Simply go back to an easier stage for a few days.

Here are some more tips that can help:

• Try to time your practice sessions for when your dog is naturally more settled - for example, after a good walk, some play or light training.
• Keep departures and arrivals low-key, so leaving doesn’t become a big emotional event.
• Provide a safe, comfortable space where your dog can settle.
• Practice short periods of separation even when you’re at home, so your dog learns that distance is normal.

If your dog shows signs of severe distress (such as destructive behaviour, excessive drooling, howling, or attempts to escape), you may want to consider getting some support from a qualified dog behaviourist.

For more information and advice, see our guide: How to teach your dog that being alone is nothing to worry about.

Do you have enough time for a doodle or poo?

Doodles and poos do best in homes where they’re truly part of the family and receive plenty of attention and daily activity. They’re not dogs that thrive in the background or by being left to themselves for many hours every day.

Before choosing a doodle or poo, it’s worth asking yourself:

• Do I have the time and energy for daily interaction and companionship?
• Can I provide routine and mental stimulation?
• Am I willing to work on training if my dog struggles to be alone?

If the answer is yes, you’ll be rewarded with a loyal, loving dog who forms deep bonds with you and your family.

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